The real reason people stray – and it’s not sex

Interesting article in the Telegraph today to which I contributed:

Psychotherapist William Pullen believes that couples in their fifties and sixties often stray because they feel lonely and unsupported. “When your partner has disengaged, you feel you must find meaning somewhere else,” he says. “Nobody wants to float through mid-life without a life belt.”

Fifties and sixties is the new middle age? People are playing tennis in their seventies, others running marathons in their 80’s (the world’s oldest marathon runner ran his last race at the age of 101. Fauja Singh finished the Hong Kong marathon’s 10km (6.25 mile) race in a time of one hour, 32 minutes and 28 seconds)

And is it questionable to compare marriage to a lifebelt? I think not. But then again I’m not married.

I like the upbeat ending to Casilda Grigg’s article: Quoting evolutionary biologist Olivia Judson, author of the brilliantly entertaining Dr Tatiana’s Sex Advice to All Creation:”Just because monogamy is difficult doesn’t mean it’s not worthwhile.” We do well to remember that relationships are nuanced. Just because they can be complex, or diverse in character, or even potentially unnatural, as Judson says, it does not make them less worthwhile. Often the best comes last.

 http://www.telegraph.co.uk/goodlife/11377351/The-real-reason-people-stray-and-its-not-sex.html

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